(of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.
That is the definition of the word selfish.
The word alone brings up feelings of shame. It feels like a dirty word. You never want to be considered selfish. What’s worse than being called out for caring for yourself?!
There have been multiple times throughout my life where people have called me out for being selfish – for putting my needs before theirs.
There have been multiple times where I’ve felt self-conscious for being selfish. I notice myself taking actions or doing things where I know I will benefit.
Not big things at the expense of others, but rather choosing myself first.
I will never apologize for choosing myself first, because I am the most important person in my life.
I think we all need to adopt to this attitude a bit more. There is such a culture of shame surrounding the idea of putting our needs first before others. That being concerned with our own “personal profit or pleasure” is considered selfish and we should always be thinking about others before ourselves.
But how can we even begin to help others if we are not taking care of ourselves, first?
The biggest service we can do to humanity is to KNOW that we are the most important person in our lives, for once we can fill our own cup, we are able to fill others as well.
We must learn that in order to be selfless, we must be selfish first.